Friday, April 30, 2010

How to Exit with Style?

The moment has arrived. You’ve finally faced up to the ugly truth: You’d both rather be anywhere but together, and a root canal is sounding better by comparison. Resist the temptation to duck out the back, make a mad dash for the door, or order a cab instead of dessert. The true measure of your soul is how you handle disaster. We can all be classy when the going is good. True style and honor come from handling bad situations well. Don’t worry. You don’t have to sit there and imagine gnawing your foot off so you can escape the trap. You can call this one off — but do it with panache. Say:
  • “Let’s skip coffee and chalk this up to experience.”
  • “I’m ready to call it a night. You?”
  • Can I give you a lift home?” (No need to be ugly.)
  • “I’m sorry things didn’t work out.”
  • “Let’s toast this valiant effort and get the check.”
Again, don’t lie. Don’t say you’ll call. Don’t say you had a great time when you didn’t. Just end the date quickly and cleanly.

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